Discouraged

Since we went out for lunch Sat. a week ago, Lyn has been upset and angry with me and others. She has yelled at me to get out immediately. She appears to be angry or upset and, of course, does not say what it is about. I had skipped a couple of days to see if that would calm her down, but yesterday she told me to get out right now. Then, I tried to put her glasses on which she took off and threw at me; they landed on the floor and a lens popped out. Luckily her optometrist’s office was open and they put the lens back in and tightened the screw.

I am at a loss as what to do. At least Joel was able to get her of bed and walking. It makes me very sad to see Lyn in this condition. I wonder what others do when this occurs. I may try coming at a different time of day and see if this helps. Maybe tonight she will watch the Astros game with me.

No Visit

I am at a loss about what to do. Lyn has been very quick to say get out of here and she has tried to pinch me. My simple way of thinking is that she is still mad at me for moving her. Who knows if that is correct? I have not visited for two days. I thought maybe if she did not see me she might forget about being mad and be glad to see me when I do show up. Probably wishful thinking.

I have called each day and checked with the staff about how she is doing. They have said she is okay, although today they indicated that she was agitated. However, Joel stopped by after work and he got her to walk using the walker and she did not say get out. He did keep an eye out for pinches and leg kicks. He said she did very well.

Any bright ideas or suggestions, send them to me.

Mad

I think Lyn is still mad at me for moving her. If not, I am just managing to annoy her. The staff at the Grace Place says she is doing well and she seems to be eating. We will have to wait and see if this will work out. I visited today and at least she did not try to pinch me which she did yesterday.

 

Difficult to Understand

Yesterday, we went out to lunch and had a nice time. I had two tickets to the Brazos Valley Chorale program and I asked Lyn if she would like to go. She said, “yes” relatively enthusiastically. I picked her up Sunday afternoon about 3:30 pm. She told me to get out as soon as she saw me. The aide, Rebecca, had dressed her very nicely. Lyn looked great.

As I have indicated before, I am a slow learner. She did not want to get into the car and as soon as she did she wanted a coke; I mean immediately. She wanted to go back home; she did not want to go the the performance which was at the First Pres. Church in Bryan, TX which has wonderful acoustics. When we arrived, she would not get out of the car and told me there was a garage sale at the church. You almost want to laugh. I went in and obtained a program which she struck me with. I said that’s all we will go back and returned her to Grace Place.

In a way I should be happy, she referred to it as home and wanted to return. That is good. The disease takes no prisoners. It is difficult to understand the day to day changes. I guess, I was hoping to go to the concert and that she would enjoy going with me. Tomorrow, Lyn will have forgotten about what we tried to do on Sunday.

Changing Facilities

Lyn moved from Crestview to The Grace Place this morning. Our pastor, Jonathan, volunteered to come with me and I accepted his invitation. As we left Crestview, he reminded us of God telling Sarai and Abram that they would go to a new place and that God would be with them.  They were thoughtful words. Lyn responded by saying that she wanted a donut. The three of us went to Super Donuts in Bryan and enjoyed the donuts.

We took Lyn to her new home off of 29th St. in Bryan. She was really mad at me and accused me of being behind this and she wanted to go back to Crestview. Unfortunately that bus left that station and The Grace Place will be her new home. She did eat and have something to drink. Jonathan had carried the TV to the new place and we got it set to HGTV which she enjoys or at least listens to. I returned later in the afternoon and she was resting. I sat in the rocker and from a distance peered under her hat and there was the eye looking back at me. We went out onto the porch and visited. There is no getting around it; Lyn is very mad at me. Hopefully, tomorrow will be better.

On Joel’s way home from work, he stopped at Crestview and we removed the last Lyn’s items. the day was not perfect, but a lot better than expected. God was with us.

Getting Ready for the Move

I took Lyn out for ice cream this afternoon and our son Joel and Lyn’s sister Susan went to her room at Crestview and packed her stuff and took it over to the new place. The staff at Grace Place had her bed made and the room fixed up. I am hopeful that this move is going to work out for the best. The room was quite empty when I got back to Crestview with her, but she did not say anything which surprised me.

A curious thing happened. I left her in the car while I ran into a store and perhaps I was gone a bit too long and she climbed from the passengers side to the drivers side.  The car was running and the AC was on. That was not a good idea to leave her in the car.

Life Changes

I put the deposit down for The Grace Place today and we will move Lyn on Oct. 11. I am at peace with the decision. They welcomed me and are looking forward to Lyn arriving. She is having medicine dosage change and I thought it would be best to have that straightened out, because I think the move will be tough. I believe it is important for Lyn to be at a place where she is wanted rather than isolated.

We will see. It certainly has been an answer to prayer and I am excited to see how it works out. Having our son at the house certainly has made it easier to deal with this.

A New Place for Lyn

I mentioned that Crestview had asked me to move Lyn within the month. That was crushing and I felt really bad. After thinking about, it I decided to look around and see what was available. Our son, Joel, is living with me, while he teaches in Hearne this year, and he has been a wonderful person to bounce ideas off of plus he has great suggestions. Two heads are better than one and each of us sees the world a bit differently and so our discussions are fruitful. Don’t hesitate to involve other people in your decisions. They may have input that will be very helpful.

A name popped up several times, Grace Place, Bryan, TX, from different sources. I spoke with the owner and I liked her over the phone; I visited on Friday and liked what I saw. It has three rooms and 24 h care. Joel went with me on Sunday and we met a woman, Charlotte, who was taking her husband out for the afternoon. He had been there two years, they helped him lose weight and she was absolutely effusive about the place. It was a better advertisement than anything the staff could have said or done.

Today, after meeting with the Crestview staff, I decided to request the bedroom Grace Place had available. When I told the staff person she gave me a hug; okay I probably needed it. Joel and Matt supported me in the decision and it feels good. We will move her in on Oct. 11, 2017.

You can check them out on Facebook- Grace Place, Bryan, TX. One of the things that makes me feel comfortable about this decision is that if for some reason this does not work out, I can bring her home.